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Hello, my name is Star and my partner of almost 3 years is a MtF crossdresser.
We were friends for 10 years before we started dating, and he told me about being a CD on our second date.
I was the first person outside the transgender community to know. This made me feel real trusted cause I know there were past relationships that ended because he was afraid to tell them.
He told me by saying that there was something special that he wanted to share with me, and handed me a stack of photos. About half way thru I realized that the photos were of
him dressed as a woman. We then set up a time for me to meet her. I really appreciate the fact that I was told early on, I think if he would have waited it would have felt deceitful.
We have been to Southern Comfort together twice now, and a few local TG events in either his area or mine.
Have also been to some non-TG events like dinner, science fiction conventions, and shopping.
I do have fears each time we go someplace new, fears that someone will say something mean, will be cruel, or even violent. But we have yet to have a bad reaction.
We have lots of negotiations to relieve fears and worries.
For example if we are going to an event I know that if i get uncomfortable we can leave for a while and either go have a talk, or go home. This makes me much more willing to try things that might be beyond my comfort zone.
I have my limits of where I am comfortable. We discuss any changes between us, like when he decided to get electrolysis we looked thru old pictures of him with facial hair so I
could decide if I could live without it. I have basically told him that as long as he can pass as a guy at the beach in a swimsuit I'm okay with it.
I do think there are a few things that makes this easier for me.
I identify as bisexual and have had committed relationships with women before, so I don't have the 'am I a lesbian' worry that many SO's have. I had dated a TS a year before, so I had some information already.
I run a local T*SO group
I welcome email at star@prairienet.org
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